How to Boundary-Set and Cope with Elderly Family Member Turning Abusive
This isn't a new problem but it's new to us, and I need pointers. My elderly father has begun to more and more frequently express his anger and other negative feelings in inappropriate ways, and help...
View ArticleWhat is the best way to get my elderly friend in the UK access to Skype?
I have an elderly friend living in the UK who needs access to Skype video conferencing, but he has difficulty typing, poor vision, and it would be hard for him to learn anything complicated. Is there a...
View ArticleMeloxicam (Metacam) and your older dog
Have you used Metacam for joint / arthritis pain in your older dog? I have questions about the length of treatment. (Only interested in answers for dogs, and do already know it can be dangerous for...
View ArticleShould I euthanize my dog?
I'm at a cross road. My dog who is 14.5 years old was diagnosed with cancer that had spread to her lungs in January. I made a decision at that point to not go through any medication or chemo and just...
View ArticleHiring a driver for elderly parent
Have you hired a driver for an elderly parent or other relative? See below for details. My elderly dad is struggling with a variety of chronic illnesses. He is not allowed to drive. Complicating...
View ArticleMedical Alert Watch?
My 91 year old mother-in-law lives alone (California) and is in great shape considering her age, but we are very worried about falls. She has had different medical alert devices (phone and...
View ArticleI think my elderly mother has to go into assisted living...
I'm going through a lot right now: new job, moving to a new city, AND my 74 year-old mother has been hospitalized since last week. From talks with her doctors and nurses, it really seems like she'll be...
View ArticleLooking for professional organizer/decluttering help in Silicon Valley
My mom says she will hire a professional organizer for her house if I find a reputable one for her. The level of clutter is not creating an unsanitary environment (no pets, dishes are washed, etc.) but...
View ArticleDad not going home: how to be kind
So my dad’s second stroke, in early December, wasn’t nearly as bad as it could have been. But he was already dying of congestive heart failure and is on oxygen constantly. How do I tell him that he...
View ArticleWhy grandma doesn’t want to play as much anymore
I’m looking for resources to help me help my nine-year-old understand how aging is affecting her grandparents. As my daughter’s grandparents age, I’m wondering about how best to help her understand the...
View Article80 year old dad and partner are in florida alone. How can we help?
I'm not close with my Dad for many reasons but he is living with his partner in florida and has not taken coronavirus on board that much, I think he belives this will last a month or 2. He's just...
View ArticleMonitoring my mother's health from a distance
What's the best way to monitor my mother's health from a distance during COVID-19? She's 74, has some health issues (high blood pressure), lives alone, etc. and just told me over the phone today that...
View ArticleLifter recliner chair for the elderly. But awash in options...
My mom is no longer able to get in and out of bed on her own and wants one of those big Lazyboy-like recliner chairs that can power lift the person up into a near-vertical position when necessary....
View ArticleIn the age of COVID distancing, how to support someone who's dying?
I'm looking for practical ways to support and connect with my father-in-law, who is dying of cancer, and (even more so) his wife, my mother-in-law, who is his full-time caregiver. We are doing daily...
View ArticleResources to help an elderly person understand social distancing etc.
A friend has to care for an elderly relative who may have been exposed to covid and is having trouble understanding what is going on at the moment. Can you point to resources (e.g. video) that might...
View ArticleHelp me convince my elderly mother to get surgery
My 80-year old mother needs a hip replacement. She has seen multiple doctors and had imaging done and the consensus is she has a bad hip and it needs to be replaced. She was initially opposed to it...
View ArticleHow do I best help my elderly, depressed, and alcoholic mother?
My mom just got out of her third alcohol-related hospitalization in the last five years and is currently in respite care while we figure out the best path forward, but we don't know what that looks...
View ArticleAdvice Needed on Travel from Ontario to See Elderly Mother in Missouri
How can I safely travel from Ontario to Missouri this winter to help my 83-year old mother? The Air Canada flight I booked for December to February has been cancelled, leaving me unsure of my options....
View ArticleHow to monitor elderly parent's finances remotely?
Is Mint/YNAB a good fit for elderly retirees, or better to have professional help? My elderly parent lives alone in his home, and while he's been paying bills and such I think he could use some...
View ArticleHELOC or secured loan to an elderly relative?
My elderly relative requires expensive in-home care, owns her house, and I'm trying to figure out the best way to tap her home equity. She's got five-figure eldercare expenses each month. She owns her...
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